No matter how attractive external conditions are, if your core is unstable and your personality is lacking, you won’t be able to maintain good relationships. Being too domineering, self-centered, anxious about gains and losses, both humble and arrogant, and fixating on trivial matters—all these will discount your overall value. Most adults dedicate the majority of their experiences to work and striving. When you’re especially tired, all you want is to be alone or quietly with someone else; being together comfortably and effortlessly, communicating on the same wavelength, is extremely important. The person you marry should be a partner you can face future challenges with together—no one wants to fulfill someone else’s fantasies or princess dreams. People who are still childish at heart and treat life like a game are not suited for marriage; they can’t support their own world or manage a family life well. Everyday life is inherently ordinary and uneventful. The less you focus on romance and idealism, and the more you see the hardships of real life, the less anxious you’ll feel.