Many children become entangled in their parents’ conflicts as they grow up, allying with their mothers and jointly blaming their fathers. While this may seem like support for the mother, it can lead to profound relational difficulties in adulthood: difficulty establishing intimacy, a tendency to be aggressive or withdrawn in relationships, and a strong fear of conflict. The root cause behind this is a typical family dynamic known as triangulation.
First, the harm of triangulation: In a healthy family, parents should form a stable alliance, with children maintaining appropriate boundaries with

People with lower cognitive ability often share three fatal traits, and they may not even be aware of them. The first trait, which is also the most frightening, is stubbornness. But this isn’t the kind of perseverance you might think of—it’s a sort of inflexible obstinacy where their mind just can’t change direction. From a psychological perspective, their brain is like it’s sealed in cement. Talking to them is like talking to a wall—you say east, they insist on west. A simple sentence can be twisted by them to mean eight different things, resulting in endless arguments. Do you know why this h

Why are Chinese tourists often ripped off both when traveling domestically and abroad? Recently, Chinese citizens can travel to Russia visa-free. According to embassy statistics, there were about 800 incidents in 2023 (accounting for 16% of tourist safety incidents), about 1,300 in 2024 (a 62% increase, due to strict border checks from the Russia-Ukraine conflict), and over 1,500 are expected in 2025 (due to the visa-free effect, with tourist numbers rising from 1 million in 2024 to 1.5 million). On Xiaohongshu, there are over 3,000 posts on "extortion during Russia travel." Similarly, in 2025

In many small towns in China, the most disgusting thing isn't poverty, but the lack of boundaries in people's malice. What people call "social interactions" is really just a disguised way of prying into others' privacy—gossiping about every little detail of each other's lives, turning other people's personal matters into topics for dinner conversation. At the table, they'll say things that hit your sore spots in a passive-aggressive way, and seeing you upset makes them happy. They even call it "just joking around" and tell you not to take it seriously. If you dare to react negatively, you'll i

A sign of maturity is the recognition of nuance, not a black-and-white sense of integrity.

The five stages of a man's life:
First stage, Wild: 18-28, young and reckless, acting without regard for consequences, fearless and bold, charging ahead.
Second stage, Steady: 29-39, tempered by society, no longer as impulsive as in youth, becoming more mature, calm, and reserved.
Third stage, Silent: 40-50, has learned to be silent, firm in oneself. Understands everything but keeps it unspoken, maintaining inner peace.
Fourth stage, Hidden: 51-59, hides one's sharpness, gradually withdraws from the stage of society, and pays more attention to physical and mental health.
Fifth stage,

Expectation is a gentle form of violence; the perpetrator is oneself, and the victim is also oneself.

Once someone has shown you malice, no matter how well they pretend afterward, you should always be on guard, because people like that are constantly testing your boundaries.

The five sentences children most long to hear from their parents are:
First, you can have your own ideas. You don't have to obey completely, but you must learn to listen and respect others.
Second, you can say no. You don't need to be afraid that others won't like you because of it. Likewise, you should also accept it when others say no to you.
Third, you can cry out loud. Crying is a way to release emotions—everyone needs to vent sometimes. But after you cry, wipe away your tears and bravely face what comes next.
Fourth, you can make mistakes, because mistakes will teach you a lot. Remember

One of the most important lessons in life is endurance. It doesn’t require any special talent or wisdom—just the ability to endure. Every difficulty has an expiration date, and tough times will eventually pass. If you encounter a problem you can’t solve, just patiently endure it until it passes.

Do not underestimate the power of the masses, nor overestimate their wisdom.

You can try to recall the earliest and most memorable event from your childhood—an event that can encompass the entire trajectory of your life. This is actually the Early Recollections technique in Adlerian psychology. Adler believed that the most vivid fragments in a person's early memories are not randomly retained, but are actively chosen by the subconscious. Early memories can reflect how a person views the relationship between themselves and the world. So he said, "Tell me a childhood memory, and I can tell you how you approach your life."
If your type of memory is about being ignored or

The essence of relationships—have you noticed that the beginning of a relationship always comes from interaction between both parties? It takes both you and me engaging with each other for the relationship to form. However, ending a relationship often only requires one party to terminate it. As soon as one person declares they no longer want the relationship, it ends. So for those relationships that cause you pain, confusion, distress, or prolonged emotional drain, as soon as you decide one day that you no longer wish to maintain it, and you choose to let go, then that relationship can come to

Do you ever feel like the good side of yourself is just an act? When people compliment you, it’s only because they haven’t seen the real you—once they do, they definitely won’t like you anymore. I want to tell you that even the side you try so hard to put on is still a part of you. It’s the part of you that used to protect yourself, or you could see it as a state of readiness that appears when you feel threatened. For example, a lot of people think putting on a facade means, “I’m not really like this in private. Actually, I’m extremely nervous and lazy. The fact that I seem so calm, outgoing,

China's current situation is like a large and extremely dangerous powder keg, but you can't find a single match.

A father should always yield to his child, especially his son. If there is a quarrel between a father and son in the family, the father must lose, because only if the son wins can the family move forward. If the father insists on arguing about who is right or wrong, it may seem like he has won, but in reality, he has lost the most. If the father insists on suppressing his son, blocking his ideas and drive, it may look like the father is in the right on the surface, but actually, he is breaking his own child's wings. A domineering father will cut off his child's courage to think and act boldly,

Your human weaknesses are other people's markets, and other people's human weaknesses are your opportunities. So, what are the true natures of humanity?
1. Human nature is to seek benefit and avoid harm.
2. Human nature is selfishness.
3. Human nature is the pursuit of acceptance.
4. Human nature is innate curiosity.
5. Human nature is the pursuit of meaning.
6. Human nature is the desire for control.
7. Human nature is jealousy and comparison.
8. Human nature is bullying the weak and fearing the strong.
9. Human nature is taking shortcuts.
10. Human nature is short-sightedness.
11. Human natu

Some people say that the most subtle form of showing off after the age of 40 is having no heart attack, no stroke, no high blood pressure, no high blood sugar, no high cholesterol, no gout, no fatty liver, no myocardial ischemia, and no arteriosclerosis. Would you agree?

A food delivery rider said, "If unmanned vehicles become widespread in the future, I'll have to go work in a factory screwing bolts." A factory worker screwing bolts said, "If robots become widespread in factories in the future, I'll have to start delivering food." Only the screw said, "If robots become widespread in the future, I won't get screwed by those people anymore."