From a psychological perspective, self-confidence subtly changes the direction of a person's life, which is what we refer to in psychology as self-efficacy. But how can one cultivate unshakable confidence that nothing and no one can undermine, and clearly define one's own value? True confidence is not believing that you will definitely succeed, but allowing yourself to fail. Why do so many people still display a strong sense of timidity even after reaching adulthood? It's because, as East Asian children, we habitually tie confidence tightly to ability during our upbringing and do not believe in the unconditional existence of self-worth. As a result, when you start to doubt your own abilities, your confidence collapses along with it.

After reaching adulthood, we are fully capable of changing our self-perception. Someone who doesn't understand themselves is prone to becoming obsessed with superficial admiration. In other words, if your entire self-perception comes from how the outside world defines you, you will inevitably fall into the abyss of striving to prove yourself to others. If at this moment you also realize that you don't know yourself as well as you imagined, how can you truly establish a sense of self-worth and real confidence?

One ultimate principle is to break free from the habit of seeking approval. When you constantly try to read others and downplay your own standards, you become adrift in other people's value systems, and your timidity becomes easy to spot. On the contrary, if you enter a certain setting with a firm set of judgments that belong to you alone, you will be impossible to ignore. Because your composure and straightforwardness, compared to the eager-to-please persona you put on to fit in, will make you far more attractive and irresistible.