The Unspoken Social Rules Adults Must Know

1. Secrets of the upper class: It's very embarrassing to bring a glamorous woman to social events.
2. A relationship where you are always at someone's beck and call: helping others 100 times, but if once you fall short, the relationship becomes zero.
3. No matter how close your siblings are, you must understand the "herd mentality."
4. You can live very well without a single friend.
5. The best way for spouses to get along is: women encourage men, without disdain; men understand and care more for women.
6. Don't be overly enthusiastic; see what’s happening and who’s involved before helping. People will only let you help if they want to.
7. Don’t get too close to your girlfriend’s best friends.
8. Try to avoid doing business with good friends.
9. Don’t show favoritism to your girlfriend in front of your wife, and be understanding with your husband.
10. Subordinates and bosses should maintain a proper distance.
11. Interact more with people of higher status than you.
12. Others’ success experiences are for reference and learning, not for copying.
13. Raising pigs is for eating pork, not for making pigs happy. Human interactions are not so simple; only valuable relationships are valued.
14. The smarter a person is, the fewer words they speak; their authority and presence grow stronger, their energy field intensifies, and they accumulate more wealth.
15. Don’t add back people you’ve deleted.
16. Don’t look at people who have left a second time.
17. Give up on someone once; don’t love them a second time.
18. When asking for help, if the other person doesn’t agree immediately, it’s mostly a rejection, so don’t force it.
19. Having many friends doesn’t make the road easier; if you walk your own path well, all kinds of relationships will come naturally.
20. After 35, no one wants you, but you can only receive retirement benefits at 65; people over 65 are often rehired everywhere.
21. Most things you do that others don’t, or most things most people don’t do but you do, will make them look at you unfavorably.
22. In reality, tell the truth with your real name; online, speak with a pseudonym.
23. Beauty is a double-edged sword. Without solid skills and high emotional intelligence, this sword will cut you.
24. No one will help you for free; others’ efforts need reciprocation. Don’t always let others pay when you go out; human relationships are hard to repay. Avoid using favors for minor matters.
25. Working a job won’t make you rich; if you want to get rich, don’t work for others.
26. Don’t see your true nature until divorce; don’t touch money and wealth with sisters to see their true faces; don’t see filial piety until your parents are on their sickbed; don’t see human nature until you touch interests with friends.
27. To make money, focus on women. Men earn money, women spend money.
28. Sincerity is a winning hand; combined with any other card, it’s a king’s hand. Alone, it’s a dead card.
29. Don’t expose others’ flaws; don’t give advice to people with average relationships, even if your advice is perfect.
30. Disliking the poor and loving the rich is common human behavior; it’s a manifestation of human nature’s pursuit of profit and avoidance of harm. You must see through it and understand.
31. In society, those with bigger courage have more opportunities.
32. This society is a winner-takes-all; losers have nothing. Success or failure is always the measure of heroes.
33. Why do people like to talk about morality? Because it can manipulate others, elevate oneself, and blame others for one’s miserable life.
34. The strong study human nature; the weak talk about feelings, emotions, and love—things that are unreliable and intangible.
35. It’s okay to seek a man’s money or power, but never seek his affection.
36. Don’t fear offending others; most people in life you can afford to offend. The more you fear offending, the easier it is to offend.
37. Those who envy you are the closest to you; the greatest evil of human nature is envying those around you who are better than you.
38. Love and friendship must come after money and family; don’t doubt it.
39. Don’t complain to anyone, because 70% of people won’t care, and 30% will just be happy.
40. Without understanding human nature, you won’t make big money.
41. Rich people remain rich as long as they don’t mess up; poor people stay poor if they don’t mess up.
42. Besides parents, others hope you drink the northwest wind (endure hardship).
43. Parents want you to improve; relatives fear your success; colleagues wish you bad luck.
44. The closer a friend is to you, the less they can accept your sudden improvement.